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My father always likes to say, “You can eat an entire whale,  one bite at a time”.   His statement came to mind the other day as I was driving to the gym at 5:00 a.m.  I realized I had come to  a totally different places in my life  physically and emotionally.

For many years I had a lot of self destructive thoughts and behaviors, lack of confidence and poor self esteem.  I lived with depression for 20 years and formed many bad habits.  Changing the thoughts and behaviors has been a five year process and will continue for the rest of my life.

Five years ago when I would think about going to the gym I would spend half the day talking myself there.   Even though I was seeing the benefits and feeling better I would think of every excuse why I could not make it.  There was a real battle going on in my head.  Most days I would say, “Just go and do cardio for 10 minutes and then you can leave.”  I would agree to this (begrudgingly) but go and get started and end up doing the prescribed 45 minutes.  I was exhausted from the battle but proud I had won.  This went on for over a year and then one day I realized I was battling myself  less and less.  I just got my gym bag ready and was looking forward to getting to the gym.  I started grinning because I realized something in me had changed.   It took over a year to change the  way I had lived my life and the bad tapes that were running around in my head and running my life.  I think part of the problem was that I was afraid of another failure and I was afraid of success but that is another post.

Last year I had a tough year physically.  I could hardly exercise and I gained weight.  January the doctor gave me clearance to start exercise.  I was cautiosoulsy excited.  I wanted my body back but some of my old fear of failure taunted me.  This time I had four years of success under my belt, I had knowledge and I believed down deep I could do it.  I wanted to try my new way of thinking that I tell my clients every day.  I did not want to be extreme in my eating or exercise.  I wanted to eat moderately and exercise regulary and see what would  happened.

Well, it has been three and a half months of  doing what I tell others.  Truthfully, I have so wanted to be extreme and exercise like a crazy person and monitor every thing I put in my mouth but have been determined to exercise and eat moderately and enjoy each day.    It is working, not only is my body changing SLOWLY  but I am gaining an inner confidence that taking care of my body, mind and spirit is for life.  I believe in the healthy part of myself.

My old trainer, David Suri,  used to tell me, “Ruth, don’t be afraid, you are never going back.”  I did not believe him,  I had yo-yo dieted for 2o years, but I trusted him, so I kept coming back until the way I thought about food, exercise and my healthy became mine.  My trainer  fed me peices of a healthy whale until I was strong enough to feed myself.  Over a 20 year period I ate a whale that produced a depressed, self destructive, and morbidly obese woman.  Over the last five years I have been eating a whale that is producing a healthy mind, body and spirit.   I feel I am becoming who I was always meant to be, one bite at a time.

It is one day at a time of healthy choices, exercising, eating right, loving ourselves and changing the way we think that is going to produce a beautiful, confident, self loving and healthy people inside and out!

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Og Mandino is a wonderful author.  His book,  University of Success, has great short inspirational stories from many different authors.    This lesson is written by Louis Binstock.  I really like being positive and don’t like to talk about failure, but his points are challenging  and things we must think about when we are not succeeding toward our goals.

               Very often we are our own worst enemy as we foolishly build stumbling blocks

on the path that leads to success and happiness.


1.  Blaming others.

My kids are driving me nuts.  My husband is not supportive.  My job is stressful.  Sound familar?  I realize I must  take care of Ruthie first so I can take handle the daily outside stresses.

2.  The ready tendency to blame oneself, in private anyway.  (“Why do I always…I never get it right…. Look, I did it again….”)

I really don’t blame others, oh no, I would much rather beat myself up.  I have spent all my energy saying bad things to myself instead of finding a way to work through my struggle.  In the past I have become content with being a failure.  Contentment in my failure is paralyzing. 

3.  No goals.

Dr. William Menniger says, “A fellow must know where he wants to go, if he is going to get anywhere.”

I keep saying, “I just want to be healthy”.  I realize I need to define what healthy looks like so I can get there.

4.  Choosing the wrong goals.

Ouch.  I want to look like her.  I want to be a size 4 or I can’t be happy, are things I have said in the past.   I want to lose 20 pounds this month.  (If you don’t know these are not good goals, see me after classs. :))

5.  Taking short cuts. 

Fad diets. 

6.  Taking the long road.

 “I’m just going to ease into this healthy lifestyle over the next couple of years.”  You tend to forget your goals and the direction you were headed in if you ease in to slow. 

7.  Neglecting the little things.

8.  Quitting to soon.

 In the past, when I have started a new exercise or diet program, I wanted immediate results.  10 pounds in ten days or it just wasn’t enough.  It did not matter how long it took me to gain the weight, I wanted it off immediately.  My old trainer, David, told me to trust him no matter what the scale said and it would start melting off, but I had to have patience.   The first couple of months it was a pound here or a pound there but I could feel my body changing and he got in my head and made me believe it might just work this time.  I had yo-yo dieted for 20 years and so my body was pretty stubborn at first and it creeped off and then all of a sudden (3-4 months later) it really started to move.  I was hooked!

9.  Burden of the past.

10.  The illusion of success.

“I have found the secret now!  I am never going back.”  Oh, those are scary words.  Becoming to comfortable and forgetting the hard work it took to get some success can be a trap.  You want to enjoy your success but realize you must continue to do what healthy people do, which is live it daily.  Success is hard work but ohhhhh so rewarding.

Now I use my past success, remember how they felt and have the courage to try new things or get back on the wagon train of success.  I know I can do it because I have done it before. 

If you identify with any of these don’t get down, (old habit) take the time to find the positive way and make it a success!  Do you use any of these?  Do any of these hit home?  How can we take these pitfalls and turn them into success?   Please share…..

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